A Step Outside
I've walked out of the bubble for a weekend of rest and minor contemplation. Wednesday I took the train down to Philadelphia running into a friend, a printmaking colleague and 3 aquaintances in the Penn Station rumble. As the train pulled me into New Jersey, I realized that I hadn't left the city or my current state of mind for several months. It is always a bit jarring to match the thought of a breath of fresh air, a break from New York hustle in a greener and cozier place, with the reality of suburbia's lack of sidewalks and feeling like the one dressed a little bit like a mismatched thriftstore enthusiast at each and every family meal.
My brother introduced his new girlfriend to the extended family, a welcome addition. She is smart, lively, willing to interject comments and questions at any point. They glossed their new collaborative project which researches some aspect of lasers and chips and physics and electrical engineeringthough I listened to details on the research this is all I can really repeata match made in heaven. At this point I also realized that though I am the oldest grandchild on my mother's side of my family I am also the only one currently unattachedNew York, luck, timing, choice, oddities in personality? I'm not sure if an answer exists but as questions were fielded about a cousin relocated to London with her boyfriend, another cousin dropped comments about a possible proposal this summer, and my brother's girlfriend circled the kitchen and living room with confidence, I initiated the removal of corks and caps from half a dozen bottles of booze.
My aunt and I encouraged the second annual family single-malt tasting, cleaning a dozen glasses and passing them around. After the first round of tasting, a game of touch football came together and we headed out back. My grandmother lives on the remains of a farm. In the large field behind the house there are 4 bee houses from her beekeeping days and the fall remains of a beautiful tomato garden. I know nothing of football rules or traditions but wanted to get some fresh air, and joined a team with my cousins Alex and Will and a warm belly of scotch.
Alex is tall and fast and intercepted most passes while I ran after a high school freshmen in new Adidas that I hadn't intended to get dirty. My skills did improve however, my brother told me to hold the ball further back because my hands are small, and Alex explained that I should pull my left arm across my chest when lobbying the passes. We took water (read booze) breaks and during a second-half huddle Alex had some words of wisdom for the team, "Alright, so after this, we go inside, drink a lot of beer and criticize our parents, BREAK." We won after my brother was picked off by a grape vine post.
Thanksgiving dinner was delicious, and I ate too much, and slept for a very very long night. This morning, to continue to meld traditions with the rest of America I went to a mall to find a new pair of jeans for my cousin, Will. This was like entering a foriegn and yet bizarrely familiar planet. I remembered stores such as Deb and Claire's Boutique from my middle school years. The entire population of South Jersey had decided to pour into the Cherry Hill Mall...some parents apparently thought it was a good place to allow their toddlers to learn how to walk, anorexic high school girls balanced enormous heads on top of nonexistent frames and Ugg boots, and chubby poof-haired moms filtered into a temporary new store called "A Christmas to Remember." I was ready to run screaming as soon as I saw a boy my age wearing a shirt that said "Jersey Girls Aren't Trash (trash gets picked up)." When we returned to the house I decided to rake some leaves in a meditation to cleanse myself of the mall experience.
I'll spend the rest of the weekend doing some more shopping, driving to and from airports, talking with my parents. And then I'll head back to the bubble and back into round-the-clock studio hours. The thought of returning to the smell of etching hot plates and ink is quite comforting, the way I was longing for suburban simplicity last week. My New York bubble might be a bit anxious, sleepless, and laced with mental gridlock right now, but I'll take it over lunch at Bertucci's, Hollywood Tans and parking lot gridlock anydayflying over the punched-out rectangle of Central Park at night, back into long walks to the train and flourescent lit cars.
My brother introduced his new girlfriend to the extended family, a welcome addition. She is smart, lively, willing to interject comments and questions at any point. They glossed their new collaborative project which researches some aspect of lasers and chips and physics and electrical engineeringthough I listened to details on the research this is all I can really repeata match made in heaven. At this point I also realized that though I am the oldest grandchild on my mother's side of my family I am also the only one currently unattachedNew York, luck, timing, choice, oddities in personality? I'm not sure if an answer exists but as questions were fielded about a cousin relocated to London with her boyfriend, another cousin dropped comments about a possible proposal this summer, and my brother's girlfriend circled the kitchen and living room with confidence, I initiated the removal of corks and caps from half a dozen bottles of booze.
My aunt and I encouraged the second annual family single-malt tasting, cleaning a dozen glasses and passing them around. After the first round of tasting, a game of touch football came together and we headed out back. My grandmother lives on the remains of a farm. In the large field behind the house there are 4 bee houses from her beekeeping days and the fall remains of a beautiful tomato garden. I know nothing of football rules or traditions but wanted to get some fresh air, and joined a team with my cousins Alex and Will and a warm belly of scotch.
Alex is tall and fast and intercepted most passes while I ran after a high school freshmen in new Adidas that I hadn't intended to get dirty. My skills did improve however, my brother told me to hold the ball further back because my hands are small, and Alex explained that I should pull my left arm across my chest when lobbying the passes. We took water (read booze) breaks and during a second-half huddle Alex had some words of wisdom for the team, "Alright, so after this, we go inside, drink a lot of beer and criticize our parents, BREAK." We won after my brother was picked off by a grape vine post.
Thanksgiving dinner was delicious, and I ate too much, and slept for a very very long night. This morning, to continue to meld traditions with the rest of America I went to a mall to find a new pair of jeans for my cousin, Will. This was like entering a foriegn and yet bizarrely familiar planet. I remembered stores such as Deb and Claire's Boutique from my middle school years. The entire population of South Jersey had decided to pour into the Cherry Hill Mall...some parents apparently thought it was a good place to allow their toddlers to learn how to walk, anorexic high school girls balanced enormous heads on top of nonexistent frames and Ugg boots, and chubby poof-haired moms filtered into a temporary new store called "A Christmas to Remember." I was ready to run screaming as soon as I saw a boy my age wearing a shirt that said "Jersey Girls Aren't Trash (trash gets picked up)." When we returned to the house I decided to rake some leaves in a meditation to cleanse myself of the mall experience.
I'll spend the rest of the weekend doing some more shopping, driving to and from airports, talking with my parents. And then I'll head back to the bubble and back into round-the-clock studio hours. The thought of returning to the smell of etching hot plates and ink is quite comforting, the way I was longing for suburban simplicity last week. My New York bubble might be a bit anxious, sleepless, and laced with mental gridlock right now, but I'll take it over lunch at Bertucci's, Hollywood Tans and parking lot gridlock anydayflying over the punched-out rectangle of Central Park at night, back into long walks to the train and flourescent lit cars.
2 Comments:
how can something like "flourescent lit cars" cause me so much nostalgia?
i miss you! glad you had a great tgiving...
meep to the nth...missing you -- your holiday sounds so lovely (a dash of Kennedy with the footbal playing, no?)
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